Ethics?
May 30th 2007 -
Back in high school, I went out with (A) and (A) told me off when I make a call to another friend when I was with (A). He said it was rude. I didn’t understand, but thought (A) was jealous because (A) used to have feelings for me back then.
Recently, I went out with (B) for dinner. Throughout the whole time I was with (B), (B) was busy making phone calls and replying sms. I sarcastically asked (B) “So busy.â€. (B) replied, “It’s urgent. Office mattersâ€. Made me wonder why (B) asked me out for dinner in the first place when (B) had things to do. I thought it was rude. Then I remembered what happened back then when (A) told me off. This time, it was the other way round.
I felt that, even if some problems came up all of the sudden, (B) could have kept the meeting short and send me back so (B) can do his things. (B) also told me he was tired. But NO, I was stuck with (B) until late night. That night, it felt more like me eating out alone and having a stranger sharing the same table as me. Even when we were on our way back, he was still on the phone. We hardly speak.
Is it rude to talk on the phone or sms over dinner? I know some family forbid it during meals.
If we were to go out with a group of friends, it is still acceptable for me but not on a one on one outing. It’s just plain rude! Especially when you’re on the phone the whole time.
May 30th, 2007 at 2:42 pm
erm… yeah… it’s rude… my bf told me that when I went out with him and I was smsing. It’s like… I’m not respecting him. Even family dinner, I’m not allowed to play with the fone, dad will scold =.=”
May 30th, 2007 at 2:55 pm
crazemilyz: Yeah. My boyfriend doesn’t like it as well, especially when I go out with him.
May 30th, 2007 at 7:45 pm
yeah its rude around Bf/ gf. but if with a group of friends then okay guaa.
May 30th, 2007 at 11:23 pm
Yes I agree… It’s totally rude!
I have been is such case as well whereby the girl was so busy answering the phone that it was like I was having my meal alone.
It is further irritating when I can’t understand the language and the both of them are laughing together…
Cheer up pal!
Fred
May 31st, 2007 at 12:10 am
Frédéric Panek: Exactly! (B) was speaking the language that I didn’t understand. So I tried to irritate him back by playing with my phone. But actually wasn’t doing anything at all. LOL
June 2nd, 2007 at 5:09 am
hey girl just checking out your blog. and ya its very rude to sms and talking on the phone during dinner. one of the reasons why the high end restaurants here (ie maldive) take your phone and keep it at the reception when you dine and only give it back if its a emergency call or when you leave.
June 2nd, 2007 at 11:31 am
nash: Yeah, I heard that some places they do that but I don’t think Malaysia do. Not that I know of. Haha…. Probably because I have not been to those high end restaurants.
Personally, I think it would be a good practice. Especially in the cinema. This reminds me of the Digi’s cinema advertisement.
A person’s manners also depend a lot on his upbringing. You can’t expect a person who has been rude among his family members to be polite with his friends at school/work. It is also harder to change a person when they are old, but it’s never too late to change.