I’m Just Too Nice
December 3rd 2007 -
A friend of mine told me that Capricorns are helpful people. I guess that statement is quite true to a certain extend. In fact, I do like to lend a hand to anyone who needs it but sometimes my helpfulness doesn’t get appreciated. My principal is “always lend a hand whenever you can, who knows you may need it someday“.
Give you few true scenarios:-
Scenario 1:
X asked me to help look for part-time / short term job for X. I practically went high and low to get contacts for X. Okay, X did thank me in advance and told me that X can’t confirm whether X wants the job or not and will get back to me the next day. And the next day, I didn’t hear a single word from X.
What I think:
Even if X have thank me in advance, I would appreciate if X at least informed me about X’s decision. On my side, it’s not very nice to ask someone for a job and yet have to tell people that my friend didn’t give me an answer. It doesn’t look good on my side, you know?
Scenario 2:
Y told me that Y has a project that required my help in term of photography and models’ contact and that Y’s company would pay me a small sum in return for helping out. Few weeks later, Y told me that the job is confirmed and need me to make some arrangement and get models’ profile for Y’s boss to view. I called up my talent agency and request for potential models’ profile. Emailed Y the models’ profile and Y told me that Y’s boss didn’t like the models because the models were flat? Never mind. Few days had passed and Y didn’t get back to me on whether the project will be carried out. I had to call Y to get update on the project status. My talent agency even called me up to get update on status. And I had to tell my agency that my client did not get back to me. I felt so embarrassed.
What I think:
Who cares if the models are flat? Not like Y is shooting for a lingerie advertisement. Further more, this is Y’s project so Y should at least update me on the status because Y is dealing directly with Y’s boss and NOT me.
Scenario 3:
Z told me that Z will be heading to Singapore over a weekend and told me that Z’s friend will be coming down to KL and requested for me help to take care of his friend. I agreed. On that day when his friend supposed to arrived in KL, Z told me that Z will be picking his friend from the airport and will give me a call once Z has pick his friend up. I waited from morning till late evening. I had to call Z and Z told me that Z couldn’t reach his friend and can’t locate his friend whereabouts. And late in the evening, Z finally sms-ed and told me that his friend missed the flight and apologized for it.
What I think:
Okay, I accepted Z’s apologise. But I find it ironic that Z took so long to allocate his friend whereabouts? Do you think I actually believe that Z actually went to the airport and stayed there the whole day? Kind of hard to believe. Well, Z wasted my whole morning and afternoon but luckily I was smart enough to make other plans.
Scenario 4:
My college was looking for student helpers for an education fair. So I send out smses to everyone that I know on my list which I think may be interested. I wrote it as a personal message with a question followed by the details. I practically send out more than 20 smses but only few replied.
What I think:
Come on, at least have the courtesy to reply my sms and at least give me an answer. I had to message some of them online to ask whether they have received my sms or not. Hello? I’m offering an opportunity here. I felt so unappreciated. Next time, I probably want to think twice before forwarding jobs opportunities to anyone. I would have save money on those smses.
** Names have been changed to protect identity.
Some of my friends say I’m just too nice to everyone. Sigh. Maybe I should learn to be a little more selfish.
December 3rd, 2007 at 5:38 pm
Well girl, no doubt that most people will take things for granted especially when they got what they want. We are living in a place of hatred, selfishness, jealousy, stingy and lots more. That’s why we should know our friends better first before we help them. Cheer up girl, no matter what you’re always a nice girl and also a nice friend to be with but is time to be wise and smart as well girl
Cheers!
December 3rd, 2007 at 11:55 pm
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December 12th, 2007 at 1:45 am
“Capricorns are helpful people”… AGREE!!! like me… hahaha.. .perasantan…
Well… tell you something… learnt from my past experience…
haha…
i remember some1 told me this b4… “Don’t COMPLAIN if you treat some1 good and dat person turns you down… coz you sendiri take it… you sendiri wanted to treat ppl good and ppl didnt ask u to do also… so… don’t blame… Never put expectation on how ppl will treat you back… ”
Another 1 told me, “You treat ppl good, you think that person will treat you good? ppl will just think that you are easy to take advantage. ppl ask for your help, you can choose to reject, and if you help them, they nvr appreciate and say I DIDNT FORCE YOU TO HELP.”
Another 1 told me, “Nvr treat your friends too good. Friends easy come easy go… Friends are fragile… if you’re nice to ppl, ppl think that you’re stupid. what for treating them so good?”
LOL… i used to cry, complain, blame here n there… after kena those lectures by my friends… i nvr blame ppl anymore dat i offer my help and ppl nvr appreciate… i’ll just blame myself…
I’m glad to those who appreciate but those who doesn’t i also dont bother to care anymore… 
Yea… u’re a nice girl… you offer your help to your friends, if you willing to help them, don’t assume and dont expect what you get in return eventhou they don’t appreciate you. You’ve learnt your lesson, it depends on how you think, don’t listen to what ppl say, do whatever you think is right.
March 2nd, 2008 at 5:22 pm
It’s so good to know that there are still nice and good people like you around..
Celine, keep up the good job. I believe that every good deed will be repaid ten times fold.
You have my support! Gambateh.
Don’t feel too upset with others not knowing your good intentions.
But they will know how you’ve helped them one day. Then they’ll all come and thank you.
As for me, I apologize for anything wrong that I’ve said or done.
November 12th, 2008 at 10:28 pm
Funny that you mentioned that you had changed the name, I really thought you had friends called X, Y and Z…. They sure must be good in algebra !